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Keep your love on. 

If you never truly invest, it is because you subconsciously fear abandonment. Fear and love have opposite agendas, and cannot coexist. 

This fear of abandonment is an insecurity that you are not enough. It is in you to cast out your insecurities, no one except you is going to make you fearless. 
  
Love takes courage; courage to be vulnerable, courage to open up, courage that even though it may hurt you gave it your all. Again and again. 

“Always recognize that human individuals are ends, and do not use them as means to your end.”

Sometimes love leaves, and it is not anyone’s fault. Real love is freeing, and that level of freedom can be scary.  

Do not let pain change you into something you’re not; do not let it close you up. 

“Each display of love no matter how seemingly small, is a powerful act of spiritual warfare that removes anxiety from the environment and replaces it with freedom and safety.”

Anxiety shows up in relationships, and that fear tempts you to run away. It takes courage to choose connection in the midst of fear. 

  
In the end, in this world you have control of only one thing; yourself. That’s it. Accepting that makes you incredibly powerful. 

You will come across those who do not share the same goal as connection as you, in that moment of angst, “think highly of them rather than protecting yourself from what may feel like rejection.”

More importantly, if no one told you today, you are enough. You are more than enough. You are loved. You are worthy of love. 

XoXo,

  

Book Feature: The 5 Love Languages

I previously spoke about the book Keep Your Love On by Danny Lee Silk. In this book, Danny mentions another book that I highly recommend reading: The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman.

This is a “must-read” when it comes to learning how to best connect with people in the inner circle of your life. I think it is important to learn the love language of your partner, family, children, and close friends.

If you don’t get an opportunity to read the book, at least take the test here to find out what your love language is.

It is important to understand that all 5 love languages are methods of expressing that you care about someone, and there is a balance to this. I believe there are a couple things that ring true with the love languages: they change over time as your needs change and your need can vary from person to person. However, I think it is the individual’s job to be aware of what makes them feel loved and then thoroughly communicate that verbally to other people.

I also love this book because it doesn’t require your to be religious to relate and apply it in your life.

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Marriage should be based on love, right? But does it seem as though you and your spouse are speaking two different languages? New York Times bestselling author Dr. Gary Chapman guides couples in identifying, understanding, and speaking their spouse’s primary love language—quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, or physical touch.

By learning the five love languages, you and your spouse will discover your unique love languages and learn practical steps in truly loving each other. Chapters are categorized by love language for easy reference, and each one ends with specific, simple steps to express a specific language to your spouse and guide your marriage in the right direction. A newly designed love languages assessment will help you understand and strengthen your relationship. You can build a lasting, loving marriage together.

*Please note that my opinions and the author’s opinions do not always support each other. The author has not endorsed this post.

 

(For those who it concerns, my current need for expressed love is Quality Time 😉 )

Book Feature: Keep Your Love On #KYLO

I have come across a few books that I think are “must-reads”. Keep Your Love On by Danny Lee Silk is absolutely one of them.

The book is an amazing tool that addresses a simple (but often untaught and unrecognized) truth for connecting, communicating, and setting boundaries with others. Not just your partner, but also your family, children, friends, and acquaintances.

What I love about this book, is that though it was written by a Christian author, it is not a religious book. Aside from a couple references to God and Jesus, the book itself does not have to be read by a Believer to be relatable, understood, or applied.

This particular book is one that I highly recommend reading multiple times throughout your life to help remind you and keep you on track to healthy relationships. If you don’t buy the book, go like the author’s Facebook page so at the very least you get page updates filled with his insight and wisdom.

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Keeping your love on. It’s a hard thing to do. Sometimes it’s the hardest thing to do. But if you want to build healthy relationships with God and others, learning to keep your love on
is non–negotiable. Adults and children alike thrive in healthy relationships where it is safe to love and be loved, to know and be known. Yet for many, relationships are anything
but safe, loving, or intimate. They are defined by anxiety, manipulation, control, and conflict. The reason is that most people have never been trained to be powerful enough to keep their love on in the face of mistakes, pain, and fear. 

Keep Your Love On reveals the higher, Jesus–focused standard defined by mature love—love that stays ‘on’ no matter what. Danny Silk’s practical examples and poignant stories will leave you with the power to draw healthy boundaries, communicate in love, and ultimately protect your connections so you can love against all odds. As a result, your relationships will be radically transformed for eternity. When you learn to keep your love on, you become like Jesus.

 

Keep Your Love On

*Please note that my opinions and the author’s opinions do not always support each other. The author has not endorsed this post.

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