2019 Bucket List Recap
New year, new me can be replaced with new decade, new … ? I’ve got nothing. So this is 2020. Anyone feel different?
Well Happy New Year (again) šš„³
Without further ado, here is what I did in 2019:
Completed Items:
Completed in 2019:
Get Engaged (2019)
Get a puppy (2019)
Okay, so neither of those things were on my list before… and sadly I’ve got nothing to move up. Maybe 2020 will be a year of “more”.
Previously completed bucket list items:
Buy a house (2018)
Learn 100 Basic American Sign Language Signs (2018)
Go For Walk in Central Park (2018)
Have a Picnic in Central Park, New York (2018)
Attend a Broadway Show (2018)
Eat Fish and Chips in London (2018)
Eat Greek Salad in Greece (2018)
Eat Olives in Greece (2018)
Build a Website (2018)
Complete a Painting in One Day (2018)
Become a Programmer (2018)
Learn a Computer Programming Language (2018)
Know the Alphabet Backwards (2017)
Attend a Beach Bonfire (2017)
Complete an Online Class (2017)
Attend a Poetry Reading (2016)
Experience the Grand Canyon (2016)
Get a Self Portrait in Italy (2016)
Go on a Gondola in Venice (2016)
Go Shopping in Milan (2016)
Go to Egypt (2016)
Climb a Pyramid (2016)
Cross Country on a Train (2016)
Visit the Grand Canyon (2016)
Eat Pasta in Italy (2016)
Attend a Cirque Du Soleil Show (2016)
Be Photographed Beside the Pyramids of Giza (2016)
Have a Cup of Coffee With a Stranger (Achieved 2015)
Dine in the Eiffel Tower (Achieved 2015)
Be Smiling in a Random Persons Photo in the Back (Achieved 2015)
Jump into a Fountain (Achieved 2015)
Drink Champagne in France (Achieved 2015)
Drink Guinness in Ireland (Achieved 2015)
Celebrate St. Patrickās Day in Dublin, Ireland (Achieved 2015)
Eat Chocolate in Belgium (Achieved 2015)
Eat Crepes in France (Achieved 2015)
Get Lost in a Foreign Country (Achieved 2015)
Dance Like No Ones Watching (Achieved 2015)
Donāt Use the Phone For a Day (Achieved 2015)
Attend a Yoga Class (Achieved 2015)
Become an Early Riser (Achieved 2015)
Do a New Year Dip (Achieved 2015)
Do a Boudoir Photoshoot (Achieved 2014)
Cut my Hair and Donate It (Achieved 2014)
Become a Film Maker (Achieved 2014)
Fly a plane (Achieved 2014)
Be in 5 Magazines (Achieved 2014)
Eat Cajun Food in New Orleans (Achieved 2014)
Go Ice Skating (Achieved 2013)
Drive around Big Sur (Achieved 2013)
Cross-Country Road Trip (Achieved 2012-2013)
View the Golden Gate Bridge (Achieved 2013)
Drive Along Route 66 (Achieved 2012)
Drive Along the Pacific Coast Highway (Achieved 2012)
Drive from Home to the East Coast (Achieved 2012)
Go to Colorado (Achieved 2012)
Become a Runway Model (Achieved 2012)
Stay in Death Valley (Achieved 2012)
Eat a Lobster in Main (Achieved 2012)
Eat Ribs at an American BBQ (Achieved 2012)
Be a Vintage Model For a Day (Achieved 2012)
Be on the Cover of a Magazine (Achieved 2012)
Bake my Own Bread (Achieved 2011)
Incomplete Items:
Climb a Rock Wall
Drink Only Water For a Year
Achieve 1,000 Goals
Add a Picture /video/blog of all my Goals
Attend a 10-Day Vipassana Meditation Course
Attend an Inner Awakening Retreat
Be a Mentor to Someone
Be a Part of an Important Movement
Be a Part of Habitat For Humanity
Be Blind For a Day
Be on Stage in Front of Thousands of People
Be Part of a Disaster Relief Team
Be Part of a Peaceful Protest
Be Passionate About a Cause
Become Courageous
Become First Woman President
Break a Guinness World Record
Build Schools For Women and Girls in Developing Countries
Buy a Stranger a Meal at a Restaurant
Change Someoneās Life For the Better
Completely āUnplugā For a Week
Create a Travel Journal
Do 365 Random Acts of Kindness in a Year
Do a Buddha Meditation
Do a Favor For a Stranger on the Scale of āPay It Forwardā
Do a Twenty-Four Hour Silence
Do Charity Work Abroad
Do Something Crazy For Charity
Do Something New Every Month For a Year
Do Something Nice For a Homeless Person
Do Something Nice For Someone Who Will Never Find Out
Coast to Coast Train Trip
Couchsurfing in 10 Countries
Cruise Around the World
Cruise Mexico
Cruise the Caribbean
Cruise to Alaska
Cruise to Antarctica
Drive Around Australia
Explore Africa
Explore Asia and the Far East
Explore Australia and New Zealand
Explore the Amazon Rainforest
Explore the Desert on a Camel Safari in India
Explore the GalƔpagos Islands
Get a Lei in Hawaii
Go Backpacking Through Europe
Go on a Real African Safari
Go Swimming in the Dead Sea
Go to a Big Medieval Fair
Go to a Big Time Movie Premiere in Hollywood
Go to a Cherry Blossom Festival in Japan
Go to Brazil
Go to China During Chinese New Year
Be Time Magazineās Person of the Year
Become a Cheese Connoisseur
Become a Freelance Writer
Become a Published Author
Become a Supermodel
Become a Translator
Become a Travel Writer
Become a Wine Connoisseur
Become an Author a Successful Blog
Travel By Seaplane
Backpack Across Europe
Backpack Across South America
Backpack Across the Himalayas
Backpack Appalachian Trail
Backpack South East Asia
Backpack Trough Australia
Backpacking Through New Zealand
Camp in the Backyard
Travel the Amazon River
Climb a Mountain
See the Northern Lights
Hike in Nepal
Visit Yosemite National Park
Hike Machu Picchu
Bake a Cake For Someone For No Reason
Cook 30 Recipes from 30 Different Countries in 30 Days
Cook an Entire Meal from Another Culture
Eat a Gyro in Greece
Eat a Six-Course Meal That I Prepared
Eat a Traditional Food from Every Country
Eat Apple Strudel in Vienna, Austria
Eat Chinese Food in China
Eat Curry in India
Eat Maple Syrup Pancakes in Canada
Eat Mexican Food in Mexico
Eat Poi in Hawaii
Eat Sushi in Japan
Eat Using Chopsticks in Asia
Create Passive Income
Establish my Business Before I Turn 40
Gain Financial Freedom
Go an Entire Month Without Spending Any Money
Invest in a Stock
Invest in Gold
Invest in Real Estate
Invest in Silver
Invest in the Stock Market
Save $10,000
Stay on a Strict Budget and Save For a Goal
Attend a Presidential Inauguration
Attend a Sydney Opera House
Attend a TED Talk
Attend a Writing Class
Become Bilingual
Become Fluent in French
Become Fluent in German
Become Fluent in Italian
Become Fluent in Spanish
Complete a Course to Become a Photographer
Complete a Novel
Complete a Rubikās Cube
Complete all the Books from ā1001 Books You Must Read Before You Dieā
Do Crosswords Every Day For a Month
Do Sudoku Every Day For a Year
Get a Scholarship For University
Get a TEFL Qualification
Get Certified As a Lifeguard
Go on a University Exchange
Learn a Burlesque Routine
Learn a Form of Martial Arts
Learn a New Language and Speak It Fluently
Learn a New Word Every Day For a Year
Learn a New Word from an Unknown
Language Every Day For 30 Days
Learn a Trade
Attend a High School Reunion
Attend One Wine Tasting a Month
Create a New Family Tradition
Grow Old With the Love of my Life
Have 50Th Wedding Anniversary
Have a Romantic Flight in a Hot Air Balloon
Apply to Be a Jeopardy Contestant
Apply to Be an Amazing Race Contestant
Attend a Charity Ball
Attend a Concert As V.I.P
Attend a Film Premiere
Attend a Lantern Festival
Attend a Masquerade Ball
Attend a Paint Party
Attend Carnival
Be in Time Square on New Years Eve
Build a Snowman Taller Than Me
Celebrate the 4Th of July in Washington DC
Dance Salsa in Rio Di Janeiro
Dance With an African Tribe
Dine in the Dark
Drink a Glass of Red Wine in Chile
Drink Rum on a Caribbean Beach
Drink Tequila in Mexico
Act in a Movie That Hits Theaters Nationwide
Act in a Short Film
Appear As an Extra in a Drama
Appear in a Music Video
Appear on Television
Attempt a New Recipe Once a Month For a Year
Be a Part of New York Fashion Week
Be on More Than 4 TV Shows
Become Great at Playing Guitar
Build a Computer
Build a Functioning Solar Still
Build a Giant Sand Castle
Build a Gingerbread House from scratch
Live in a Log Cabin
Put together a complex Puzzle
Build a Sauna in my Home
Build an awesome Tree House
Build Affordable Green Communities
Complete a Wine Journal
Create a Childrenās Book
Create a College Photo Album
Create a Documentary
Create a Publication
Put together a Scrapbook
Create an Iphone Application
Create Melted Crayon Art
Decorate a House
Capture a Tornado on Film
Circumnavigate the Globe By Sail
Climb to the Top of a Rope in a Gym
Cross a Country With Bicycle or By Foot
Do a Firewalking
Do a Polar Bear Plunge
Do Human Bowling
Go at the Top of the Highest Building of the World
Go Bull Riding
Go Dog Sledding
Go Go-Karting
Go Into a Zero Gravity Room
Go Storm Chasing
Go White Water Rafting
Go Zip Lining
Hang Glide
Have a Nascar Experience
Arrive at an Airport and Take a Flight Randomly
Attend a Beach Party
Attend a Mind Reading Show
Attend an Event at Buckingham Palace
Bathe In Chocolate
Bathe In Milk
Bathe In Oil
Be a Contestant on a Game Show
Be a Couchsurfing Host
Be a Flashmobber
Be a Member in the TV Audience
Be a Street Performer For a Day
Be a YouTube Star
Be an Extra in a Television Show
Be in Two States at Once
Be Inside an Igloo
Be Interviewed By Jay Leno
Be Interviewed On Oprah
Be Invited to the Playboy Mansion
Be Listed As One of People Magazineās Most Beautiful People
Be Nude on a Nude Beach
Be on a Radio Show
Be on the Cover of Rolling Stone Magazine
Be on the Front Page of a Major Newspaper
Be on Webcam With Someone For Twenty Four Hours
Become Ambidextrous
Belong to a Secret Society
Blow Bubbles in the Rain
Buy Someoneās Groceries Just Because
Call Someone, Tell Them to Look Out Their Window, and Be Standing on Their Front Lawn
Celebrate my Birthday in Another Country
Change Clothing in a Phone box
Climb a Light House
Collect a Coin from Every Country I Visit
Collect a Jar of Dirt from Every State
Collect a Penny For Every Year Iāve Lived
Create a World Map With Pins of Where Iāve Been
Dance all Around the World
Dine at Sanyou Cave Hanging Cliff Restaurant, China
Do Everything With my Left Hand For a Whole Day
Do Something Absolutely Spontaneous
Do Something Unexpected
Donāt Talk a Whole Day
Draw Funny Faces on all the Eggs in my Fridge
Age of Censorship
Welcome to 2020. We just left the last decade of lies marketed as itās prettier narrative āfalse newsā. We start the new decade by media giants censorship under the guise of fact checking.
Censorship under the guise of fact checking.
If havenāt seen this censorship yet, here is an example post where Facebook blurs out the photo (like they do with flagged violent posts), where you can click to go to an alternate explanation of the photo or in small print you can reveal the labeled-false photo:
The site Africa Check site claims they have partnered with Facebook to combat fake news and false information on the social platform.
The site continues on that content rated as āfalseā by fact-checkers will be downgraded in news feeds meaning fewer people will see it.
I should lead with I am not against fact checking.
I would prefer instead of hiding the meme like itās some violent crime that the fact check hyperlink was just present at the bottom of the image (where the āshow picture ā icon is listed).
I also do not think Facebook should suppress the viral nature of a meme.
Whenever I am presented with information, I go to find articles about whatās being stated so itās nice that one article is instantly available. I like having this option to think for myself, and not to have this false hope that people should trust Facebook all of a sudden for their āprotectionā *cough* censorship *cough* against false news
This is where I find the irony of Facebooks āthird party fact checkersā. Facebook censors the viral posts of the general public, but are still okay with taking money for political ads forced into unsuspecting individuals news feeds that present false narratives to spin their own agenda.
To me it just feels like a false bravado of “oh look at me – I’m Facebook and I’m so socially responsible by flagging memes with lies in them…. just not the ones people pay me for”
Who do I want to be?
Itās three years in the future, and future me is dead. I am lying in an open faced casket. While this is how I am seen at that moment, it wasnāt how I was remembered. How I died was as important at this point as the black balloons, chosen flowers, and the black coordinating dress everyone wore as they stifled their cries.
My mother, the embodiment of strength Iāve always known her for, was called up to the podium to speak. She stared longingly at the open casket, as if waiting for me to wake up. As if I were only going about one of my many long naps. Everyone was quiet. She turned to the crowd, and began to speak, āMy daughter, Ashlee. Asheepoo.ā The was enough to cause her voice to crack. āShe fought hard to stay alive when she was just an infant in my arms. Always positive. Always looking for the future. She was strong in ways Iāve always admired; I knew she was her motherās daughter. Ash had a way about her to get wherever she was going, no matter what. She never let anyone stand in her way. She gave second chances, but never a third. She knew how to move on, so that when people she cut off looked back at her, they saw only the trail of success she left on her way up. And successful she was. Not just in her career, because she definitely worked hard in that, but also in her sense of adventure. She was going somewhere…ā At that, my mother let out a small sob and buried her face into a handkerchief. Scottie, my partner, came up and held her by the elbow and laid a gentle hand on her back as he guided her back to her seat.
Next to walk to the podium was my sister. Beautiful and alive as ever. If anyone carried down the genes of strength of our mother, it was her. So strong, so proud. She looked tired from crying, but she wouldnāt let that sadness stop her from speaking today. āI remember,ā she began, ācoming home to find teenage Ashlee curled up asleep on the couch everyday after school. She loved sleeping. I think itās from all this sleep that she really dreamed up the future and where she was going. We werenāt that close when she was a teenager, because after all, how many teenage sisters are? But not too long after she moved to Florida did we really start to connect. I loved finally having someone to talk to, who not only listened, but also understood. We lived different lives, but we were still one blood. Ashlee would check in, she always knew when something wasnāt right. She would tell you how it is, blunt – even if they werenāt the words you wanted to hear at the time. She didnāt coddle her opinion. But no matter what, she was in your corner. I now understand how sisters are the friendship that never fades. Even in her death, I know she is here in my heart. A part of me. That is how she would want to be remembered; as an integral and meaningful part of our lives that even in death never stopped beating passion and drive to push us forward in our own goals. So, Ash, this isnāt good bye – but see you later.ā
Danielle sat down. A few other people got up and spoke. The list of speakers was long, so everyone was brief. Whether it was a memory from childhood, or school, or work – everyone wanted to say a word or two. My closest and best friends talked about or travels or high school. They talked about my love for life, even when I couldnāt quite see it myself.
Scottieās turn came up to speak. His love for me was pure, and came out everyday in gestures, kindness, patience, and love. As I lay there in the casket, eyes closed, he laid a hand on my hand and wiped a tear from his eyes. Everyone loved Scottie, and it was easygoing to listen to him speak and be around him. Even if this moment of sadness and loss, he made everyoneās spirits rise. āAshlee meant everything to me. When I saw her for the very first time, I knew that one day I would marry her. Which was a bit awkward, because she was married to someone else.ā He said in jest, and a small laugh traveled through the crowd. āBut I waited patiently from afar, as the only thing I truly cared about was her happiness. As her world at the time crumbled around her, and her marriage hopelessly fell apart, I waited. As I knew she would come out the other side just as strong and beautiful as I remembered. And she did. Not to say, unscathed. But thatās the world, isnāt it – it can be unkind and even cruel; but not Ashlee. She was kind, loving, patient, humble. Sheād ask me everyday why I loved her so much, and I wish I had known the words to tell her then what I can see so clearly now. I loved her because she was bold, brave, strong. I loved her because she was quiet, sweet, and small. I loved her because she was loud, proud, and so smart.ā He stopped to look at me again. āI loved her because no matter what she came up against, she came out on top. Never, ever letting the world harden her. She only wanted to be loved and to be love, and so she was.
So she was.ā
—- Eulogy Writing Prompt from: —-
āHereās a small mental exercise. Imagine that itās three years in the future, and, sadly enough, youāve passed away. Take a moment to visualize your own funeral. Imagine your loved ones ā your partner, your best friend, maybe your dearest colleague ā giving eulogies. Now ask yourself what youād like them to say. What sort of person do you want to be remembered as? For what do you want to be remembered?ā – The 7 Habits of a Highly Effective Person
A long winded post to say:
What sort of person do you want to be remembered as? Always positive. Always looking for the future. Forgiving, but not a doormat. An adventurer. Not afraid of a challenge or the unknown. Empathetic. Straight forward. Blunt. Supportive of others. Strong. Beautiful, inside and out.
For what do you want to be remembered? Pushes through hard times. Successful; not just in my career, but also in other aspects of my life. That my family and friends can count on me.
Bucket List: Learn 100 Basic American Sign Language Signs
I wasn’t sure what inspired me to choose to sign up for ASL as my language for my college degree. Maybe some part of this bucket list remained in the back of my mind when I was choosing my courses. Either way, I completed my first semester Fall 2018 of ASL with a B+ and am signed up for Spring 2019 to round out the language requirement for my Bachelors degree.
It was easy to learn 100 basic ASL signs with the amazing teacher that I had – Professor Rebecca Cotton. It’s an hour drive north to the campus (only after work hours ASL class available), but worth it to have her as my teacher.
A new kind of adventure
In July I signed the mortgage for a new home. It feels pretty good. A new kind of adventure.